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Protecting Kids from Parental Conflict During Divorce
As a family counselor guiding families through divorce, I’ve seen firsthand how children can be deeply affected by their parents’ conflict. Parental conflict is the #1 predictor for post-divorce adjustment in children. While some conflict is expected during divorce, parents can learn to manage their disagreements – and eventually become skillful at it. Disclaimer –…
Read MoreWhich divorce process is right for you and your spouse?
As a counselor and divorce coach, I’ve guided countless couples through one of life’s most challenging family transitions – divorce or separation. When children are involved, I strongly encourage parents to consider collaborative divorce or mediation, both consensual dispute resolution processes. These approaches typically result in less emotional trauma and can support parents in developing…
Read MoreProtesting When Your Marriage Ends – Beware!
The decision to divorce is often arrived at only after many months, years, or decades of struggling to make a marriage work. Whether you are leaning out, or holding onto the marriage, when divorce becomes the path forward, the dynamics of your marital relationship will change dramatically. When your spouse wants out, and you are…
Read MoreHow to Advocate for Yourself During a Divorce
As a skilled mediator, divorce coach, and co-parenting counselor, I often witness the emotional turmoil that accompanies divorce. Advocating for yourself and children during this time is crucial, regardless of your background or circumstances. I often share with my clients how important advocating is when you are going through the divorce process, and here are a few suggestions…
Read MoreWhen Your Co-Parent Wants to Change the Parenting Schedule Frequently
One common challenge that many divorced parents face is dealing with a co-parent who wants to change the parenting schedule frequently. It can be frustrating and unsettling for everyone involved and is often the first clue the co-parenting agreement may need to be updated. When you are considering a co-parenting update that keeps you out…
Read MoreUnderstanding Discernment Counseling: A Path to Clarity and Resolution
Life is full of uncertainties and challenges, especially when it comes to making important decisions about our relationships. Whether it be contemplating the future of a troubled marriage, considering separation or divorce, or simply feeling confused about the best course of action, discernment counseling can offer valuable guidance and support. In this blog post, we…
Read More“My Child Refuses To See Me After Our Divorce”
During and after divorce, and often leading up to it, the family system is stressed. Parents and children cope with this stress in many different ways, some adaptive and others very dysfunctional. If your child is resisting or refusing to spend time with you, it is not only heartbreaking, but also confusing. Legal and mental…
Read MoreWho, When, What: 3 Tips for Telling Children About Divorce
The day parents talk to their children about their separation will be a day pressed into the memory of most kids. Most remember vividly where they were in the room, the words that were used, and who was present. That’s why it’s really important to think hard about what you’re going to tell them and…
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