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For couples who find themselves at a crossroads in their marriage, Ann Cerney offers wise counsel and useful therapy.

As every relationship falls somewhere upon a continuum, Ann Cerney offers couples three types of counseling.  Each type of counseling is targeted to couples at different points of the continuum.

  • Couples’ Coaching
  • Discernment Counseling
  • Divorce Coaching

Couples Coaching

Your relationship has become rigid, fixed.  You long for more spontaneity,  intimacy, stronger communication.  You want to feel excited and optimistic about your future together.

Taking care of your most important relationship will yield high rewards.  Invest in what matters most to you.

  • Effective Communication Tools
  • Making requests
  • Using Soft start up
  • Avoiding shut-down traps
  • Balancing Dynamics
  • Busting status quo’s
  • Forgiveness
  • Recommitting
  • Celebration and joy
  • Couple projects
  • Continued growth

Discernment Counseling

Leaning Out Partner –

You are strongly considering ending your marriage/LTR. This is a major decision, one you never wanted to make.  Understandably, you are

  • Paralyzed by fear and confusion
  • Hopeless about a future together
  • Ambivalent about leaving, or staying

Leaning In Partner –

Your spouse wants a divorce/separation.  You do not want your marriage/LTR to end.  Even if you saw this coming, you feel

  • Powerless, like you have no choice in the matter
  • Rejection over being ‘left’
  • Devastated and confused, what did you do ‘wrong’?

Ending a marriage or LTR is traumatic regardless of whether you’re leaning in or leaning out.  Discernment counseling is a brief, time limited process – no more than 5 sessions.  The goal is to come to a decision about how to proceed with the relationship.

There are 3 paths from which to choose:

  1. Status Quo – do nothing, do not separate, divorce, or commit to working on the relationship
  2. Separate/Divorce – define and take next steps toward this decision
  3. Recommit to the relationship – Work on the relationship 100%, all discussion of leaving off the table, for a specified period of time.  Reassess at the end of that time.

A majority of the work is done with me 1:1, though you will come in together (or zoom). At every meeting, we intermix short exposures together as a couple to summarize and gain understanding of the 1:1 discussions.  Discernment counseling is an evidence-based process, developed by Bill Doherty, at the Doherty Institute, the University of Minnesota.

If you want to understand exactly what happened in and to your relationship, and especially your role in its evolution, Discernment Counseling is an excellent solution.

If you choose path 3, staying together, you will commit to working on the relationship with the knowledge gained in this process.  If you decide to separate or divorce, path 2, you will both be better equipped to avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships.  That is worth the work.

Divorce Coaching

Pre Divorce – Navigator

Ann works with individuals and couples to educate them about the various divorce processes available.

As a Navigator, Ann will perform a 90-minute assessment, taking a history of your marriage, conflict style, family strengths, schedules, resources, and special needs.  Both you and your spouse must be present for this assessment.

There are several factors to take into consideration to determine which divorce option is optimal for each family and their unique circumstances.

Upon conclusion of the assessment, Ann will make a recommendation to you and your partner as to which process or processes you should consider for your divorce.

Divorce Coaching

Ann is a trained Collaborative Divorce Coach.  Ann has been involved as part of a Collaborative Divorce team on 50+ cases since 2007. Trained in Collaborative Divorce in 2006, Ann has been a member of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and regional practice groups since that time.  Link to my collaborative page at CPS/MARIN. 

Divorce coaching can help minimize the confusion and feelings of powerlessness that often accompany divorce.  In traditional cases, Ann often accompanies her clients in meetings with attorneys, and has supported them in court.

The emotional aspect of divorce is often most overlooked, and plays a large part in the outcome of every case.  It’s helpful to have someone along for the journey who has experience, offers sound advice, and can help set realistic expectations.

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From The Blog

“My Child Refuses To See Me After Our Divorce”

During and after divorce, and often leading up to it, the family system is stressed. Parents and children cope with this stress in many different ways, some adaptive and others very dysfunctional. If your child is resisting or refusing to spend time with you, it is not only heartbreaking, but also confusing. Legal and mental […]

Testimonials

Ann has been an integral part of many successful collaborative divorce teams that I have put together over the last 10 years.  She does a great job helping my clients, who are often women, get a handle on their situation.  She sees them as good people who want to do the right thing by their […]

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