Couples Therapy
For couples who find themselves at a crossroads in their marriage, Ann Cerney offers wise counsel and useful therapy.
As every relationship falls somewhere upon a continuum, Ann offers couples three types of counseling. Each type of counseling is targeted to couples at different points of the continuum.
- Couples’ Coaching
- Discernment Counseling
- Divorce Coaching
Couples Therapy & Coaching
In couples therapy, Ann brings in findings from Dr. John and Julie Gottman’s research, as well as Dr. Stan Tatkin’s research on attachment styles in couples. She views couples through a systemic lens, called the Family FIRO Model, rather than one of individual pathology. The focus is on interactional patterns in the two-person system of the couple. Underneath some dissatisfying and confusing patterns often lie unexpressed needs. With compassion and curiosity, those needs are unearthed, often opening channels for deeper connection, understanding, and grace in the relationship.
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- Effective Communication Tools
- Making requests
- Using Soft start up
- Avoiding shut-down traps
- Balancing Dynamics
- Busting status quo’s
- Forgiveness
- Recommitting
- Celebration and joy
- Couple projects
- Continued growth
Developing a shared vision, learning to address conflict as it arises, noticing and making bids for connection, and repairing injuries to the attachment bond are essential skills for a healthy couple.